The lady has her head screwed on the right way.  She doesn't need to sympathise with her children concerning how they get along after she's gone because she's bringing them up to accept responsibiity for themselves.

One the great problems in the UK is the almost universal sympathy which is so often expressed for entirely the wrong reasons.  Growing up isn't about getting older, it's about learning to shoulder the full responsibilty for our actions, words, thoughts and deeds, and not making excuses for why we are the way we are.  "If you want to do something, you find a way", if you don't, you find an excuse.  Most people just grow old, whereas people like Nigella Saatchi or Lawson whatever she calls herself and despite the tragedies in her life have grown up, and she's making sure her kids do likewise by not spoiling them.

My guess is Nigella doesn't have a man in her life because she has to, but because she wants to.  It's a choice she made not because she felt insecure without one, but because she wants to share her life with someone, not pamper him (not that he needs it) or her kids with money or possessions which she is ensuring they can do for themselves.  That's afterall what parents are for, not for doing what their kids can do for themselves, but for doing the things they can't do for themselves like guiding them into accepting full responsibility for themselves and allowing them to grow-up instead of trying to make them do so.  That's the most common mistake many parents make.   

They'll thank her in the end because they'll be able to look back and feel grateful that what they've achieved was as a result of their own efforts put firmly in place by their mother who passed on the greatest gift of all, personal responsibility.  Loving ours kids isn't just about fuzzy liitle emotional feelings, but about putting them first.  That means in a healthy and creative way which ensures principles are put before personalities, not plying their banks accounts with more money than sense.

Yes we hear it all the time, there's 6th sense, nonsense & common-sense, yet the reality is that common-sense isn't very common !   As for those who harbour a strong opinion or resentment because Nigella has decided not to leave her money to her children, just remember whatever words come out of your mouths, "people's opinions of others, is more often than not, just a reflection of themselves".

Far too many in Britain today are looking for handouts when they should be out striving and working instead, and when they don't get it, they expect sympathy for all the good it does.  If you want sympathy, you'll find logged somewhere between shit and syphilis in the alphabet and will be about as much help to you as they are.