Kyle Lowder was born in St. Louis, Missouri and raised in Pleasantville, New York, where he lived with his mother, Susan; father, Craig; and brothers, Travis and Cameron. He is very close to his family. Lowder had six years of classical vocal training and was in the All New York State Choir in high school where he won numerous awards. He also received voice lessons at Syracuse University, where he attended before moving to Los Angeles in the spring of 2000.

In 2002 he married Arianne Zuker who plays Nicole on Day of Our Lives.
Quarterback of his high-school football team at Pleasantville High School. Attended Syracuse University. He was also on his track team and a gymnast and can perform a standing backflip. Thanksgiving 2001, became engaged to 'Days' co-star Arianne Zuker, who plays "Nicole" (6 years his senior in real life).